Why It's So Hard to Tell When Our Pets Are in Pain
And how to spot the quiet signs before it's too late
One of the most heartbreaking parts of being a pet owner is knowing that our animals can’t tell us when something hurts. Unlike humans, dogs and cats instinctively hide their pain — which means we often miss the signs until their discomfort is quite advanced.
As a vet offering in-home end-of-life care, I often hear loving owners say, “I just didn’t realise how much pain they were in.” You’re not alone in this. Recognising pain in animals is hard, I sometimes find it hard and I’ve been a Vet for 20 years! But, learning the subtle signs can help you make more compassionate, informed decisions as your pet enters their final stage of life.
Why Pets Hide Pain
In the wild, showing weakness can make an animal vulnerable. Even though your dog or cat lives a safe, loved life, this instinct still runs deep. They may carry on eating, wagging their tail, or purring — all while quietly coping with discomfort.
This doesn’t mean they’re not suffering. It just means they’re doing what they’ve evolved to do: mask the signs.
Subtle Signs Your Pet May Be in Pain
Pain doesn't always look dramatic. In fact, most of the signs are quiet, behavioural changes that are easy to overlook, especially in older pets.
Look out for:
Slowing down on walks or hesitating at stairs or jumping up
Licking or biting at one area of the body repeatedly
Changes in posture (e.g., hunched back, stiff gait, restlessness)
Sleeping more or in odd places
Loss of interest in toys, play, or affection
Panting or shallow breathing even at rest
Growling, hiding, or seeming withdrawn or grumpy
Purring more than usual (in cats, this can be a self-soothing behaviour)
If your pet has multiple signs, especially in combination with weight loss, incontinence, or confusion, it's worth seeking veterinary advice.
“They’re Just Getting Old…” — Or Are They in Pain?
It’s easy to dismiss these signs as “just ageing,” especially if your pet still eats or gets excited when you come home. But age doesn’t have to mean suffering.
If they’re struggling to move, avoiding affection, or withdrawing from the world, it could be pain — not simply age — that’s making them slow down.
Choosing a Peaceful Path: End-of-Life Care at Home
When pain becomes too difficult to manage, or when treatment options become limited, it may be time to consider whether continued care is in your pet’s best interest. This is where in-home euthanasia offers a peaceful, loving alternative.
Instead of another stressful vet trip, your pet can stay in their own bed, surrounded by familiar smells and gentle voices. You have the space to say goodbye on your terms, without being rushed, watched, or overwhelmed in a clinic setting.
You Don't Have to Decide Alone
If you're worried your pet may be in pain but aren’t sure what to do next, I offer free, no-pressure consultations. Together, we can talk through what you’ve noticed, assess your pet’s quality of life, and gently explore whether end-of-life care may be the kindest option.
📞 Contact me today for a compassionate conversation, or learn more about how in-home euthanasia works.
